More and more of us are using dating apps like Tinder to connect with fellow singles. However, finding success through these apps isn’t easy. Striking up a conversation in the first place can be difficult (just because you’ve matched doesn’t mean they’ll reply). Once you do get a reply, the next challenge is turning this conversation into a date. If you’re struggling to get Tinder conversations to go anywhere, below are a few tips that could be worth considering.
Ask interesting questions
Nobody likes to have to answer boring questions like ‘how have you been?’. Try to keep the conversation exciting by asking interesting questions. Such questions should be fun and not too serious – you don’t want it to feel like a job interview. Use any information in their bio or photos for inspiration (for example, if they’ve got pictures with their pets and you’ve got pets yourself, this could be a great topic). Alternatively, consider wacky questions like ‘what’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?’ or ‘if you could pick a superpower what would it be?’. Don’t be afraid to show a romantic interest with questions like ‘what’s your ideal first date?’ or ‘big spoon or little spoon?’. If the conversation runs dry, change the topic and ask a new question.
Avoid one-word answers
One word answers could show that you’re not interested. Unless you’re genuinely not interested in keeping the conversation going, try to elaborate with all your answers. For example, if you get asked ‘if you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you pick?’, don’t just reply ‘Australia’ or ‘Paris’ – give a justification as to why you’d love to travel to these places. Don’t be afraid to provide cheeky answers or joke answers to spice things up (which leads onto the next point…).
Use humor
Humor will keep the conversation fun (and it can make you more attractive). If the conversation is getting too serious or too mundane, don’t be afraid to throw out a funny comment to break the ice. If you haven’t spoken in a while, you could even kick off the conversation with something humorous like a meme or a joke. For inspiration check these +70 tinder questions.
Know when to take the conversation offline
A big mistake people make is not knowing when to take the conversation offline. If the conversation is flowing and there’s chemistry, it could be the perfect time to ask for their number or ask if they want to meet up. Alternatively, if the conversation has started to dry up but has been fun until then, you could ask them then if they fancy meeting up. Don’t keep the conversation going too long – they may be waiting for you to make the first move and may lose interest if this doesn’t happen.
Try other options to online dating
If you’re not having much luck with Tinder conversations, consider whether it’s really the best dating strategy for you. Some people find instant messaging slow and tedious. You may even feel that you can’t communicate your answers properly. A dating chatline service such as https://chatlinedating.com may be better suited to you. Alternatively, you could try an option like speed dating or another dating event if you feel that face-to-face interaction is better.
Take a break
Talking to lots of people, but struggling to find chemistry with any of them? If you’re making an effort to keep the conversation going, but you’re still getting nowhere, there’s no point forcing it. You may have to eventually accept that there are no good quality matches available at this time. Consider taking a break from dating apps for a few weeks – this could allow time for new users to join. Online dating takes patience sometimes. Don’t assume that just because the dating pool is stagnant now, that it will be like that forever – in a few weeks it could be a completely different landscape.
